My daughter died by suicide at the age of 17. Lose you to death has been an event more devastating, painful and debilitating of my life. To manage the overwhelming array of emotions that arise from my pain, I developed a LIFE RAFT, a set of tools designed to not only survive, but to embark on a new life of joy and happiness.
LIFE RAFT is an acronym for:
L = others for ayudarle.I = identify their emotional pattern F = flow E = emotions are Chaotic R = respect their needs A = aware of NOW F = find Joy T = Timechunk
Let's take a look at each one individually:
L = Let other Help You: feeling down, leaving others help help is hard to do, however, one of the more importantes.Desde birth, it teaches us to be self sufficient, hard, strong. Well-meaning friends often echoed this sentiment saying we suck, let's get over it. This Council is simply bad! Who heard for a cancer patient to get over it and move on with your life?
Those of us in emotional pain cannot be moved or get over it. Our emotions are living with us. We must deal with them, not to bury them.Others asking for help in any way that we need (e.g., mowing our lawn, hear our sadness), not only help us feel better, allow our friends that give us a gift precious. remember how it felt the last time that helped a friend? Make that your friends to give her the gift aid. Don't be shy. We ask them. Want to help you.
I = your emotional pattern identification – identify their emotional pattern their individual and unique emotional mood mapping environment. We all cycle of emotions at different speeds and with different intensities in response to the events of life. Pain, for example, we can experience sadness, joy, anger, and laughter in minutes or in the course of an entire day. Learn about the frequency and intensity of our mind gives us the opportunity to know what to expect and when to expect it. This step in the awareness of our emotional patterns can significantly relieve anxiety.Once we know what they are most likely to follow our emotions, imprison because no nos.Nos became free. Therefore identify their emotional pattern. It is what it is. Do not try and change it. Be aware of this. For more information, see "The secret to overcoming his depression".
F = flow: emotions must flow through you. Not fight against them. Accept them. As pain, not go below of them, about them or their around. It should experience all aspects of pain, sadness, pain, mania, etc., that comes your way. It is as simple as that.
E = emotions are Chaotic: emotions are chaotic and can dramatically change a moment to another. It is ok. You need to leave your emotions be chaotic. Accept the fact that are chaotic. We know that you won't last forever. Any emotion feels will eventually change.It's a basic truth.
R = respect their needs: in the past, I often found myself doing what others want me to do, behaving as desired by others I to behave and thought as others wanted me to think. Said Yes when I felt like saying no. Those days are gone! Don't be afraid to let alone if you say is not in their best interest. This is not selfish!This is simply taking care of ustedes.Así my Council is making decisions that are in your best interest and if you decide to go against what you really want, think or feel, be aware of the reasons does it. Respect and protect your staff needs and you will experience more happiness.
To = Awareness now: in vivo at present as far as possible. There are surprising colorscapes, smellscapes, touchscapes to be experienced at any time. Don't miss from them. Attention (once saw a Bumblebee sleep in my flat in the Centre of day). Once the time is gone, gone forever.Practical living in the present.This alone will transform your life.
F = find Joy: find activities that give pleasure and joy.Experience them often.If you like paint, write, walk or talk, knowing what gives you joy and help put these activities in your daily life as often as possible to live a fuller, more life satisfied, more cheerful.
T = Timechunk: If the day seems overwhelming, cut it down into small chunks of time.Think only the next hour, minute, or second if the day or week seems overwhelming.Each of us has a bucket of specific size containing our emotions.When the bucket is full of negative emotion, life seems overwhelming to the point of paralysis.We cannot help us us mismos.Si began to focus on a small time increment, less filled with cube and we are able to cope with life more eficazmente.Por therefore fragmented up!
Life rafts are designed to save lives .the approach LIFE RAFT presented here saved mío.Espero which will be useful in the management of their own pain, depression, bipolar illness, divorce or any another traumatic event or loaded the vida.Doy anxiety welcomes your comments and stories.
Patti Tillotson is a survivor! A survivor of the death of his teenage daughter by suicidio.Un survivor of breast cancer and a survivor of her own depression during the vida.Ella is a training Ph.d. scientist and currently focuses on the prevention of suicide in adolescentes.Para raise money, she has established a non-profit organization called StepsForSteph in honor of his daughter to prevent suicide teenager in http://StepsForSteph.com Stephanie.ayudar
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